Weekly recap + what we ate: a week of tech meals

Lighting Session.

Well, since I last poked my head around here, I’ve teched, opened, and closed a show. And I also prepped and started rehearsals for my next show. I feel like we’re kind of in survival mode right now – long hours at work for me; the 13 year old is also in my upcoming show so has rehearsals several times a week – I’m really proud of her for getting herself to rehearsals after school; my parents have come to visit. And as always, the Husband is holding down the fort, keeping the kids fed, the house picked up, and my laundry folded. The hours are late because the opera I was in performances for is looong – 3.5 hours from orchestra tuning to end of bows. That’s long. It was a beautiful show, though. And I love the music – some days I feel so lucky that I get to live in Mozart’s brilliance for a living. It’s not always fun and roses, but there is a lot of beauty to be found in my job.

At the beginning of tech week, I thought it would be interesting post to capture what I pack in my lunch box during tech week. Lunch box is a bit of a misnomer because in it I also pack dinner and lots of snacks. Basically my formula is:

-Lunch
-snacks for rehearsal breaks
-Dinner
-Snack for drive home. I’m often driving home late at night so a snack helps keep me awake.

Sometimes if I don’t eat breakfast, I also pack breakfast. Usually it’s yogurt and berries with a swirl of honey. Sometimes it’s just a peanut butter sandwich.

So here is looking at Tech Week through the lens of what I pack for dinner.

Day one of tech – On the work schedule:
11am Set Looks and Spiking. This is where the set and furniture is put onstage and the director – and scenic designer, if there is one – gets the first chance to look at everything and tweak things that can be tweaked. It is also often the first chance for the crew gets to do each scene shift in order. They do it slowly, and not at all in time. “Spiking” refers to putting down tape marks where all the furniture will go. Our show was a revival of a show that we had done previously and the scenic designer was not present.
7:00pm Sitzprobe. A rehearsal where the singers get to sing with the orchestra, no staging or props or anything; everyone just concentrates on singing with the orchestra for the first time. Sitz is German for sit. Probe is German for rehearsal. We actually had a Wandelprobe – “wandel” means to wander – where the singers instead of sitting at chairs with music stands got to walk around an open set while singing. Note for future self, though – while in my stage manager mind, a Sitzprobe and Wandelprobe are similar in that we only have a reduced stage crew with us, they are very different for the singers. We had called it a sitzprobe on the schedule when really it was a wandelprobe and people were upset because they were expecting to just come and sit and sing. Singers prepare and dress differently for a Sitz vs. a Wandel.

Anyhow, what I packed to eat:

Pink snack box (Lunch): Empanada (from Farmer’s Market the day before), cucumbers, apple slices, hummus, a boiled egg.
Green Lid (Dinner): Smitten Kitchen’s One Pot Farro and Tomatoes. I often make one large pot of something to eat throughout tech week. This time is was this deliciously simple, filling, and versatile farro dish. I add a can of cannellini beans to bulk it up. Vegan since I leave out the cheese.
Orange snack box (Post show/ drive home snack): Trail mix (I make my own – pretzels, mixed nuts, M&Ms), grapes, apple slices, string cheese, cucumbers.
Extra snack: two clementines.

Day Two of Tech:
1:30p – 5:00pm: Piano Tech #1
7p – 10:30p : Piano Tech #2
Piano Tech is the first rehearsal onstage with scenery, and often lighting. We work through the show slowly, making sure everyone – performers and crew and stage management – can figure out what the traffic onstage and backstage is. This rehearsal is with piano not orchestra, hence the name Piano Tech.

What I packed:

Lunch box – Jamon Torta (wrapped in foil) – the Husband had gone to dinner at one of our favorite Mexican restaurants a few days ago and brought me back a Jamon Torta, my favorite thing on the menu. I didn’t have time to eat it then so I packed it for lunch. Apple slices, cucumber slices, banana muffin (I had found a bag of frozen muffins in the freezer! Nice treat)
Dinner: One Pot Farro with roasted delicata squash and a boiled egg. (Eggs are another of the things I always prep for tech week – fast, easy source of protein)
Snack box: Same as the day before. I didn’t finish it all, so I replenished it and packed it again.

Day Three of Tech:
morning – putting cues in my book, cleaning my book for the evening rehearsal
2:00p – 5:00pm – lighting session. Where the lighting designer sets lighting levels without any performers onstage. I have to be there to put the cues on my book and remind the lighting designer of when thing happen and where people are standing onstage.
7:00pm – 11:00pm – Piano Dress rehearsal. We add costumes to the mix. Still a piano rehearsal.

Lunch Box: Empanada (from the empanada run earlier in the week). Apples, cucumber and banana muffin. I think these were actually leftover from the day before. The torta was so huge I didn’t eat much of the other stuff I packed.
Dinner: One pot farro and tomatoes with roasted delicata squash
Blue Snack Box: apple slices, boiled egg, trail mix, sesame rice crackers from Trader Joe’s, Undercover Quinoa Chocolate crisps.

Then we had a day off!!!

Day Four of Tech:
Morning: putting spot light cues in my book. Spot light cues are the bane of my existence. They are fussy and a lot of words to say. For example “Spot 3 Standby to pick up singer in Frame X at 50%, head and shoulders as they come through the stage left door.” The Frame number tells them what colour to put in the spot light. The percentage is how bright to make the light. “Head and shoulders” is how big to make the light; head and shoulders means the spotlight should only cover the singer’s head and shoulders. There is also “full body”, which is the whole person, “3/4 body” which is about to the knees, “waist” open to the waist. The Assistant Lighting Designer writes the cue sheets for the spot lights, but I still have to put it all in my book to relay the information to the Spot operators.
Afternoon: Lighting session
7:00pm – 11:00pm: Orchestra Tech rehearsal. We finally add the orchestra to the mix.

What I packed:

Lunch (or dinner – it’s pretty interchangeable at this point):
-One pot farro, with delicata squash. Though this time I add arugula and eat it as a salad, dressed with some olive oil and rice vinegar.
-Green rimmed tupperware: Coconut chickpea curry with pumpkin. I had made it for dinner the week before, and it made good leftovers for tech week. Vegan.
Snack container: Trail mix, sesame rice crackers, undercover chocolate quinoa crisps, cucumber slices, string cheese.
Additional snacks: apple slices. Grapes and carrots.

Day Five of Tech:
Morning: Continue putting spot cues and fixes in my book.
Afternoon: Lighting session
7pm – 10:30pm: Orchestra Tech #2. Ran the show with the orchestra.

Lunch (or dinner)
-Round container: One pot farro eaten as a salad with arugula and raw golden beets and olives.
– Square container: Coconut chickpea curry with pumpkin, again.
Snack Container: Trail mix, cucumbers with furikake seasoning, boiled egg, sesame rice crackers, apple slices
Additional Snacks: aple slickes, grapes and carrots.

Day Six of Tech – Final Dress Rehearsal! It was Wednesday, which is when the nearby Farmer’s market is, so we went to get empanadas for dinner.

Day off!!!

Opening Night – Finally.

Just dinner this day:
-In the insulated container: Meera Sodha’s congee with celery and braised soy mushrooms. I made it for breakfast one day since I had a bunch of leftover rice in the fridge and had enough leftovers to take for dinner. I got the recipe from her latest cookbook Dinner, which features vegetarian and vegan Asian inspired recipes. This congee was delicious comfort food, and so simple and fast to make. The braised mushrooms magically had the consistency of pork belly – which for me is a selling point.
-In the snack container: cucumbers, grapes, sharp cheddar cheese, and a piece of apple cake. (About the cake – the day after final dress was a day off, and I was so drained that even though I had a laundry list of things to do, I just couldn’t do anything but sit in a comfy chair and alternate napping and reading a book. At some point in the afternoon, I felt the need to get off my behind and do something (not that napping and reading are nothing), so I baked an lemon apple cake with some apples we had that were past their prime. Baking turned out to be the right low energy activity. I need to remember that next time I am feeling in a post tech slump – baking is a good activity to bring me back into the world of productive “life-ing”. Not that I follow the cult of productivity, but I do think I need to have an activity that takes me out of the zoned out numb brain state that I’m in after teching a show. )
-Snack- carrots and apples for the drive home.

And that’s a tech week of food for me. There is something really satisfying about bringing all my food with me – I kind of actually don’t like to buy lunch or meals; it never tastes as good to me, and it takes too much time. I’d rather spend my time going for a walk.

Grateful For: I’ve been pretty lax about keeping up with my gratitude journal this month. I really want to get back to it because I find it really grounding. One day I sat down and did some aggressive gratitude-ing, and just did a gratitude brain dump, and I felt so much better after. So in that spirit, and given that it’s almost Thanksgiving, here is some off the cuff gratitud0ing, stream of consciousness style as I wait for the 13 year old to finish basketball.
-beautiful fall weather – cool, brisk, crisp and bright.
-the kid who just said, “Good pass!” To the thirteen year old at this basketball pick up game. Pick up is sometimes rough – right now it’s her and eight other middle school boys and, let’s be honet, boys can be kind of not nice to girls on the basketball court and there have definitely been not nice comments made. So it’s nice when a kid says something nice to another.
-being done rehearsal in time to be home to give the kids good night hugs and kisses.
-being done rehearsal in time to hang out with the Husband on the couch.
-My mom making dinner tonight and leftovers waiting for me at home.
-Friends who drive carpool.
-Will Watt, my current favorite audiobook narrator, and his expresive, silken voice, for making me almost look forward to my commutes.
-My portable bluetooth keyboard that allows me to type blog posts on my phone during kid activities.
-Whoever is in charge of the drop off line on Friday at the elementary school for blasting feel good tunes as kids are being dropped off. I look forward to walking the kids to school on Fridays, knowing that I’ll be greeted by upbeat music.
-That my kids walk hand in hand to school. I love watching them walk up to the doors together and disappear through them. I’m grateful that they always (almost always) are happy and willing to go to school.
-That I get to work on two of my favorite operas this fall. One is behind me and one has just started rehearsal.
-That I get to work on one of my favorite operas with my 13 year old in the chorus.
-That the prop guy at work retrieved the stage management snack box that I had accidentally left in our office at the theatre. I had meant to bring it back to the rehearsal studio, but it was so late when we left the theatre after the final show, I had forgotten. And the snack box is very important. I also didn’t want the mice to get to it.
-Butter, flour, baking powder, and buttermilk. Heat. And the strange alchemy that makes biscuits.

Looking Forward To:
-Thanksgiving. It’ll be a small gathering, but I’ll still be making all the food. Current plan for menu is: Buttermilk brined spatchcocked turkey, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, rice with kabocha squash, roasted broccoli (or steamed, depending on time), rainbow Jell-o, apple pie, chocolate whiskey cake. Maybe bread. Maybe a green salad.

-Thanksgiving leftovers.

-A day off that isn’t Thanksgiving, so I can get life tasks done.

-Track suits! I used to order the kids matching pjs for Christmas, but the 13 year old wears adult sizes now, so it’s hard to find something for all three kids. This year I ordered the kids matching track suits instead, something that’s been on my “want to buy them” list for a while. I’m really excited.

-Curling up with hot tea and a book. Not sure when this will ever happen this month, but I’m looking forward to it.

-This was just released on Audible – looking forward to listening to it on my commute. (After I finish my current Will Watt narrated book. )

It’s by the same group of people who made the audio play version of “The Mysterious Affair at Styles”, which I also really enjoyed. Peter Dinklage as Poirot was so much fun.
(Speaking of which – did anyone catch the broadcast of Shakespeare in the Park’s production of Twelfth Night on PBS’s Great Performances? Dinklage’s performance as Malvolio was brilliant – comic precision blended with strangely earnest pathos. I’ve always found Malvolio tedious, and this was the first time he seemed human.
The rest of the production – I have feelings. This was a star studded cast – Sandra Oh, Lupita Nyong’o, Jesse Tyler Ferguson – and I think there was some really brilliant ideas in the production – the Viola/Sebastian relationship was really well done; the music; some of the minor characters were really well portrayed; the curtain call was brilliant, but also flabbergastingly lavish. But… the production wasn’t romantic. I think Twelfth Night is a very romantic play – the sincerity and depth of feelings of all the characters is what makes the play funny, even as people’s hearts are breaking. The gender bending love triangles here are played purely for laughs, and I feel like that makes them come off as without depth. Despite some great performances, I never believed that Olivia or Orsino loved anyone except themselves. And maybe that’s the academic, esoteric truth about Olivia and Orsino. But I don’t think – I don’t want to believe – the characters are as shallow as all that. Viola is such a great character – probably my second favorite literary character after Jane Eyre – that you have to believe that Orsino is worthy of her love. And in this production, he just … wasn’t all that. It’s a tricky task, to be sure, to deliver an Orsino that deserves Viola, but I have seen it done before, and it’s disappointing when you come out at the end of Twelfth Night feeling like Viola could have done better.
Anyhow, that’s my five second review of the production. I’d be interested to see if anyone else caught the production and had thoughts. It’s available to stream until the end of the year on PBS)

Welp that’s a whole lot of brain dump (written over ten days) for one night, and I desperately need to go to not stay up too late, so I’ll wrap it up. No weekly dinner menu because a) I didn’t write it down the past few days, and b) the Husband did most of the cooking and I wasn’t home a whole lot for dinner the past few weeks. I think there was soup from the freezer, eggs, chicken stir fry. Taco Tuesday… all of it filling and tasty, I’m sure.

Anyhow, I hope those of you who celebrate Thanksgiving are gearing up for a lovely one, however you are spending the day!

Weekly recap + what we ate: Hallowe’en, Good-bye, October/Hello, November

And like that we are in November! The first week or so of November have been a blur as we got ready to move into the theatre. And I blink and look up and we’re almost half way through November by now! I’m trying not to think about it because I’m feeling very behind in life.

October Highlights:
-family hiking and contra-dancing in Shepherdstown WV.
-biking to work and biking with the 8 year old.
-family trip to the opera.
-It’s prime apple season. Going to farmers markets and getting apples. My favorite right now are Crimson Crisp and Arkansas Black. I like apples that are crunchy and the right blend of tart and sweet.
-Soup party at work.
-finished union negotiations finally.
– Starting rehearsal for my favorite opera.
-Some slow evenings at home with the kids – playing board games, reading, doing art.
-Lenten Women’s group meeting. We discussed a few verses in Esther about uncertainty and what to worry about and what God tells us not to worry about. (And is he telling us that it’s not worth the worry or is he telling us to trust him that all will be well?)
-tap dance classes with the 6 year old.
-Hallwe’en. Details on that below.

October Lowlights:
-The government shut down. UGH ugh ugh ugh. I know it’s now over, but the whole thing just dragged on and on and on. On the one hand I was happy that my friends had time to get together for random weekday lunches, on the other hand, it was such a time of uncertainty, not knowing what our elected officials were doing and when things were going to end. Incidentally, I don’t know if this is related, but I’ve been seeing a lot of For Sale signs on houses in my area lately. Late fall isn’t typically the prime time in our area for home sales, so I find it alarming that so many people are putting their houses on the market right now. I don’t know if that’s a sign of the current federal upheaval or what, but I can’t help but wonder.

-General uncertainty at work and some beloved colleagues leaving. I can’t write about it, but ugh ugh ugh.

-Getting back into the rhythm of working every day full time and in the evenings was hard. I think it’s always hard, though. I need to brainstorm ways to make it easier. Or just embrace the suck?

October Insights:
-“Don’t quit today.” One of my favorite October read/listens was Stephen Starring Grant’s Mailman: My Wild Ride Delivering the Mail in Appalachia and Finally Finding Home. There is one section where he finds himself on a really hard route and he’s messed up and doesn’t think he can finish and he calls a colleague and says he’s not cut out for the job and is going to quit. And his colleague says to him – and I’m paraphrasing badly – , “Don’t quit today. Finish your route, but don’t quit today.” That really stuck with me, the idea that when things are hard, just focus on what is in front of you. You can always quit tomorrow.

-People not things. I had written last month some reflections on where I am in my career, pondering if it’s okay that I’m not right now jumping for the chance to work on big complicated new productions. There were some really wise comments on that post. I think what I realized after writing that post and reading the comments is that for me, my job is about giving people the space and information they need to tell stories on stage. Shepherding a huge, technically complicated project through rehearsals to opening – that sounds really cool and I know if I did that, I would be so proud and exhausted. But you know, what I get the most satisfaction out of on the daily basis? It’s making sure the singers feel taken care of; keeping the director moving forward in their process; making sure my team is working together and communicating well. And these things I can do regardless of how technically complicated a show is. So every time I get sad that I’m not working on a fancy new production, I need to remind myself that I’m here for the people and the stories, not the machinery.

Hallowe’en recap:

The two nights before Hallowe’en:

All done just in the nick of time:

Costume details/ summary: I love making Hallowe’en costumes. My kids would probably be fine with store bought costumes, but they indulge my hankering to be creative. The two younger kids have wanted to be KPop Demon Hunter characters since they first saw the movie. I did briefly look for costumes online, but found it hard to find licensed Demon Hunter costumes, so it’s just as well that I was okay with making them. I wanted to write down the costume details because I think I made some fun discoveries as I made these costumes.

Flower fairy (13 year old): I didn’t actually make this costume, but I did help with the hot glue gun. Also I only had one stick of glue, so it was kind of a baited breath process, hoping that we had enough glue to attach everything that the 13 year old wanted. This costume featured a dress that the 13 year old already owned, a ridiculously expensive amount of fake flowers (dude, fake flowers are not cheap!), hot glue, gold ribbon, wings from last year, and the 6 year old’s flower crown from the Ren Faire.

Jinu (8 year old)– Thrifted ladies’ black button up shirt, with the arms trimmed to the right length. I crocheted the belt from yarn I had sitting around. The hat is ordered from Amazon. I thought for a minute of making the hat out of poster board, but I figured this would last longer and be less frustrating. Side note, while trying to figure out how to buy a gat hat- which was surprisingly difficult for something I eventually ordered of Amazon – I went down this deep youTube hole about how a genuine gat hat is made, and it is FASCINATING. The hat is hand woven from bamboo threads. If you are into in depth craft videos, check it out.

Zooey (6 year old)– this one took the most work of the three costumes. The shirt, skirt and sparkly shoes are thrifted. I went to four different thrift stores to find it all, but each thing was perfect for what I needed, so it all felt so satisfying. The glitter hightops actually light up, and the 6 year old LOVES them. I had to tell her she couldn’t wear them until Hallowe’en because I was afraid the batteries would run out. The skirt is a tennis skirt with built in shorts, so I’m sure we’ll get more use out of that too. Once I had all the base pieces, the 6 year old and I went to Michael’s and pick up almost every gold thing we could find so I could play with options for the embellishments.

The shoulder pieces were made from felt. I sized the felt with regular white glue to shape them. To do that, I cut the felt into the right shape. Then I covered both sides with diluted white glue and I sandwiched each piece of felt between wax paper. Next I molded the felt/wax paper sandwich over mason jars, using elastic bands to hold the pieces in place until the glue dried leaving the felt in its curved shape. After the glue dried, I sewed the shoulder pieces onto the white shirt.

The gold turned out to be a bit of an ordeal. I had ordered gold duct tape, but when I got it out to start using it, something was off and the duct tape was not sticky. In fact, it felt really oily. I had a moment of panic because I was going to use the duck tape for all the embellishments so that I would not have to sew anything. I ended up gluing the duct tape to the shoulder pieces and then looking for another solution for everything else. I had bought some heat transfer vinyl, the kind you’d use in a Cricut machine. It turns out, the stuff is just as easy to use without a Cricut machine – I just cut what I needed with scissors and then ironed it on to the shirt.
Friends – I have never used this stuff before, and it was like ANGELS SANG when I first applied it. It is SO easy to use and it looks amazing. And it’s better than duct tape because it will stretch with the clothes. Next time I have a project that involves putting designs on clothes, I’m going to use this stuff again. It was a game changer for me.

The rest of the embellishments: the tassels and the chain on the skirt were made from gold metallic braided trim. The gold studs on the shoulder pieces are gold stickers.

Striped tights – of the 6 year old’s choosing, something she already owned.

And luckily Zooey is the one Huntrx member without outrageous coloured hair, so I just put the 6 year old’s hair into Zooey buns to complete the look.

Hallowe’en Night – Our own neighborhood is very quiet on Hallowe’en, so we usually just put out a bowl of candy and go over to our friend’s neighborhood to trick or treat. Their neighborhood has an annual neighborhood decorating contest, so the houses are always so fun to see. This was one of my favorite houses – every year they have some kind of statement tombstones:

In case you can’t read them, the tombstone read, from left to right:
“Here lies America’s Reputation Abroad. Can’t get any lower than this!”
“Here lies the Federal Workforce. Death by 200, 000 cuts.”
“Here lies Co-Equal Government. It was a nice idea.”
“Here lies Freedom of Speech. Last Words: …..”

It seems like a very DC type display…

We ended up trick or treating from about 6:30p – 8:30pm. I loved seeing all the kids out in their costumes. Funny story, when we pulled out the Hallowe’en buckets, the 13 year old took the one that the 6 year old usually uses and wouldn’t give it back.
“Fine,” I said to the 13 year old. “you can keep the little tiny bucket. Your sister will trick or treat with a pillow case.”
Of course being reminded that she usually uses a pillow case, which could hold much more candy than the little monster bucket, immediately led the 13 year old to give the bucket back to her sister. Of course by then the 6 year old had figured out that, yeah really the pillowcase is the better option. So she went trick or treating for the first time with a pillowcase. Later hat evening, she discovered one of the perks of having a pillowcase to collect candy in was being able to stick one’s whole torso into the pillow case and inhale the candy. Literally, figuratively…

“It smells so good in there!” she said.

When we got tired of trick or treating, we went back to our friend’s house where the Husband had brought pizza for dinner. We then sat in the front yard around a fire pit and drank mulled cider (some folks added an extra something special in their cider). The kids stayed inside sorting and swapping candy. Our friends have tween/teens as well, but they always make sure the 8 and 6 year old are included when they hang out, which is nice. I might have fallen asleep in my camp chair as everyone talked around me. It was such a cozy way to end the evening. We’ve decided with our friends that we need more evenings around the firepit with mulled (spiked) cider.

Grateful For:
-The later bell time. In our school system there are two bell times – half the elementary schools start at 9am and the other half start at 9:25am. We are the later bell time, which is good because we need all the time we can get to get out of the house in the mornings.

-warm fall weather. And the morning light, though it does get darker earlier.

-Not having to work on Hallowe’en. I happened to have the day off work, and the elementary school was having it’s fundraiser run that morning so I was able to go cheer my kids on. I ran into a friend whose kids are in the same class as mine and we ended up having lunch between the kindergarten run and the 3rd grade run. Then I went home and had still had time to prepare for Hallowe’en. It was nice not to have to rush directly from work to trick or treating and to also show up for a school event.

-Also grateful that Hallowe’en was on a Friday night so that we didn’t have to get anyone to school the next morning. That was pretty awesome.

-Return policies. I spent a lot of money at Michaels last month – see Hallowe’en costumes. Thankfully they have a 60 day return policy, so I was able to return all the gold trim and embellishments that I didn’t end up using. So grateful that I could get that money back.

-That the 6 year old finally figured out how to ride her bike! I’m grateful for her siblings for giving her lots of advice, especially the 13 year old, whom I think did most of the coaching.

Looking forward to (the November edition):
-Visit from my parents.
-Opening my current show. Tech week has been going very smoothly, but the hours have been long.
-Then closing the show and moving on tot he next show. I’m excited because originally the 13 year old didn’t get a spot in the children’s chorus, but two days before rehearsal started, they had someone drop out and the spot was offered to the 13 year old. She was SO excited. She’s loved this show since she was really little and always wanted to be in the children’s chorus. It will be exhausting, but I’m looking forward to working on a show with her again.
-The staging staff coming in for this next show, all of whom are people I’ve worked with before and I’m really excited to work with them again.
-Thanksgiving. No idea what we are doing for Thanksgiving yet. Should think on that.

What We Ate – two weeks worth of meals here, because I’ve gotten behind in posting. The Husband was responsible for 95% of the dinners the past two weeks while I’ve been rehearsing late.

Monday: Cauliflower shawarma, Melissa Clark recipe from NY Times Cooking. I added red peppers and chick peas to this. I actually prepped the veggies snd tahini sauce in the morning before I went to work and the Husband put it in the oven when he got home. Apparently the kids had fun with this one:

Tuesday: Dinner out. The Husband and kids went to meet a friend for dinner. I had leftovers at work.

Wednesday: Chicken stir fry.

Thursday: Ramen with shrimp. I was working, so I’m not sure if the Husband or the 13 year old made dinner this night.

Friday: Hallowe’en – candy, pizza, brie, crackers. Maybe some fruit was eaten in there.

Saturday: leftover pizza and movie. I think they watched Lego Movie 2. I was at work.

Sunday: Sausage pasta for the family. I ate lefotvers out of the fridge when I came home

Monday: Lemony turkey white bean soup with greens. Pulled from the freezer. Note to self: this recipe freezes very well.

Tuesday: Taco Tuesday. I think the family had beef tacos. Not quite sure.

Wednesday: Udon noodles and stir fried chicken.

Thursday: Coconut curry chickpeas with pumpkin and lime Melissa Clark’s recipe from NY Times Cooking. This was really tasty. And good for many dinners after. I made this in the morning before going to work so that the family could have something fast to eat for dinner since they were going to see the 13 year old in the school play that night.

Friday: I think the family had pizza and watched the Lego Flash movie.

Saturday: This was tech week, I was at the theatre all day – no idea what the family ate for dinner.

Sunday: One of the ladies from the Mom’s group I joined when the 6 year old was born hosted a get together. It was such a fun reunion to see how our kids and families have grown in the past six years. It was a potluck affair. We brought soft pretzels and fruit salad. Afterwards we went over to firepit with our Hallowe’en friends and had chili around the firepit. It was a very social day for my one day off. Usually if I have a free day during tech week, I want to just hide and sleep, and my inner introvert was screaming a little to have to be so social, but I did really love seeing everyone. Plus life does not stop life-ing just because one has been at the theatre all week.

Well that’s life lately here. This weekend I’ll work all weekend – we have a show Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, so it will be a lot of time at the theatre for me. The family will come to the opening night performance. The opera is almost 3.5 hour long, so I’d put money on the 6 year old falling asleep before the end of the show. (Note to self: remember to tell her the story before she goes since she can’t read the supertitles.) Otherwise, the weather looks to be beautiful, so hopefully I’ll remember to get out for a walk or two to enjoy the sunshine.

Hope you have a wonderful weekend! How was your Hallowe’en? Is a pillowcase an appropriate candy catcher where you are? How was your October? Looking forward to anything in November?

Cool Blogger’s Walking Club- week 5 + 3 takeaways

Rounding out Cool Blogger’s Walking Club – thanks again to Elisabeth for organizing this community effort.

I’ve been picking something to notice on my walks – past weeks, I’ve notice Hallowe’en decorations, and flowers. This week I picked fall foliage. End of October is peak fall foliage time here in Maryland. There seemed, though, to be a variety of foliage from some trees still being mostly green, to brilliant oranges, yellows, and reds, to some trees already all bare.

Monday 10/27:
-15 min yoga
-Walk kids to school from the parking lot on the path. Take a loop through the woods on the way back to the car. Took this picture:

It’s a picture of a leaf on my windshield, but I love how it looks like i was able to capture a leaf mid fall.

Tuesday 10/28:
-15 mins yoga
-Walk kids to school from the parking lot on the path. Take a loop through the woods on the way back to the car.
-Walk at lunch time. Saw some beautiful mottled leaves.

Wednesday 10/29:
-Ten minute yoga
-Walk at park during the 13 year old’s piano lesson. Saw this beautiful orange tree:


-Walk kids to school from the parking lot on the path. Take a loop through the woods on the way back to the car.

Thursday 10/30:
-10 min yoga
-Walk kids to school from the parking lot on the path. Take a loop through the woods on the way back to the car. It was a soggy day, making the colour of the leaves really pop.


-Walk in the neighborhood around work on my dinner break.

Friday 10/31:
-Yoga 20 mins
-Walked to pick up kids from the school bus. The late afternoon light through the trees was stunning, setting the leaves ablaze:


-Hallowe’en! Trick or treating for two hours.

Takeways from CBWC Fall 2025:

  • Walking, getting out, moving – I can choose to do those things. I don’t have to get out for miles and miles, but when I have a free space of time, a ten minute walk rejuvenates me more than if I had spent those ten minutes scrolling. I need to especially remember this when I get really swamped and can’t find the time to go for a run and start feeling sluggish. I can make the choice to move.
  • On the subject of choice- I feel so grateful that I have a variety of options on how I commute and travel. I can drive, take the Metro, or bike. So days when my schedule is a little more flexible, I can choose to take metro or bike instead of driving. It is a bit of a luxury, I realize, because not everyone has all those options. If my car breaks down I can still get to work. If I miss the bus, I can still get in my car.
  • I had a lot of fun choosing something to notice every week. Being on the look out for Halloween decorations really made the lead up to Halloween fun. Looking for flowers when the world was starting to go dormant brought little flashes of colour to a grey world. And I’m glad I took time to look for leaves because often fall is a very busy time for me at work, and I don’t get to go leaf peaking. I sometimes get to winter and realize I’ve missed the wonderful colours of fall, so I’m glad I took time to find the pops of fall that I could see this week.

(bi)Weekly recap + what we ate: What I wore one week in fall

I am feeling a little underwater right now. We’ve been rehearsing 11am – 6:30ppm, which in theory gives us the evening off, but I don’t get home until 8pm and the evening’s kind of over by then because my brain is fried. Plus I had some titles to do for an upcoming recital. And Hallowe’en. And the mornings…. I haven’t figured out my mornings. Conceivably the only thing new in the morning now that I’m back in rehearsal is that I have to pack my own lunch in addition to the kids’, which shouldn’t take that long, but somehow, any empty space in my morning pre -going back to rehearsals seems to be gone. I’ve been thinking about what of my own buckets I want to be filled in the morning, and how. This is what I came up with:

Body – yoga
home – make my bed
brain – read 15 minutes
soul – journal
family – check in with Husband before he leaves for work.

But then also, the MUST DOs in the morning:
-make lunch (two kids and myself)
-Get the kids’ breakfast. Often the Husband does this before he leaves for work. Really, the kids should be at the stage where they get their own breakfast.
-Supervise practicing piano for the 8 year old and worksheets for the 6 year old. (that makes me sound very Tiger Mom, but the 6 year old does worksheets so that she stays out of the 8 year old’s hair while he practices piano.)
-Supervise morning chores (unloading dishwasher, sweeping)
-Get myself dressed. (Sometimes shower, but very rarely. Meaning I try to shower at night. But even then I don’t shower every day.)
-Prep dinner (if needed) and pick up kitchen and make sure counters is clear.
-get the kids out of the house on time.

I feel like if some of any of the above doesn’t get done, we get by, but the effects of neglecting those things are cumulative and really pile up, making stress for future us and future me.

Which is all to say, getting my feet under myself the past few weeks has felt like a lot. In my journals, the second half of October has been blank. I can always tell when I’m in a busy season when I look back through my journals and there are a string of blank pages. And actually, funny enough, when looking at my five year journal, October/November seems to be the months every year with the most blank pages. Which I guess is itself telling.

Anyhow, before I got really swamped, I decided I would do a “What I wore” post because it take a little bit of daily effort to put together and I thought I’d be able to dash it off. Plus, it’s fall and fall is my favorite season for dressing – all cozy layers and deep colours. So here is a week in October:

Monday:

This was the first day of rehearsal. I have a jacket I used to wear to every first day of rehearsal, but when I put it on this time, it was a little tight around the shoulders, which makes me sad. So I wore this instead. Red Wool& dress. Striped sweater from a Teat & Cosset, a maternity brand that no longer is around. Yes, that’s a nursing sweater. But I still wear it because it is a comfy cotton/wool blend that keeps me from overheating and it’s neutral but not plain. The denim jacket is from Uniqlo – one of my clothing purchases this year. I always swore I’d never wear a denim jacket, but this one has a bit of stretch and a boxy, but not too boxy, silhouette, and is so practical and versatile that I’m growing to love it. Black jockey leggings (cotton with pockets!). Blue boots from Reiker. I actually liked this outfit so much that I work it for family photos later that week.

Tuesday:

I’m sure I wear this dress at least once every time I do a week of outfits. It’s a linen shirt dress that I wear throughout the year, regardless of season. It’s easy to dress it more warmly or less. Orange pocket leggings from Toad and Co. Grey wool sneakers from Geisswein. I used to have All Birds, but then they stopped having fun colours, so I found this other brand online. I actually find them more comfortable than All Birds.

Wednesday:

There’s the denim jacket again. I did probably wear that jacket every day this week. Butterfly sweater bought from Nordstrom Rack several years ago, before I stopped buying white clothes because of kids and messes. (I’m slowly introducing white back into my wardrobe.) Sweater is worn over blue Wool& dress. Purple scarf was a gift from a friend – it has the first page of Jane Eyre printed on it. Red Geisswein wool sneakers. I had ordered several pairs of Geisswein sneakers because I couldn’t tell from online which pair I would like best. I liked both.

Thursday:

My Day Off, hence the hastily snapped picture while I was at H&M. Snoopy sweatshirt and green joggers are all from Uniqlo. I bought the joggers for our trip to South Africa and these have proven very cozy and thick. I’ve worn this outfit on almost every day off this fall. Same shoes as yesterday.

Friday:

I had a different outfit planned this day, but then I didn’t do my yoga in the morning, so I decided to wear my very stretchy Duluth Trading Company NoGa pants in case I had time to do some light yoga at work. (I didn’t). I like the NoGa pants because they are basically yoga pants that I pretend are okay to wear at work. The purple sweater is from Uniqlo. The shoes are a repeat from yesterday. The hat was a gift from my bachelorette party sixteen years ago. The scarf is the same as Wednesday.
Later that day, I did change because we went to the opera. I have one nice dress, which I wore with a black blazer. I don’t really have pictures of that night, but I’ve probably worn it here before.

Saturday:

I’m pretty sure I wore this in last year’s “What I Wore” post. Sweatshirt dress, bought when I was pregnant – it has thumbholes! The sweater is a hand me down from my cousin. I was wearing my sneakers because I was coming from doing the13 year old’s voice lesson run and had gone on a walk while waiting for voice lessons. I had brought ankle boots to change into at work, but then I went directly from voice lesson to work and was slightly late to rehearsal so I didn’t change. The leggings are from Duluth Trading Company. They also have pockets. Everything I’m wearing has pockets. Except my underwear.

Sunday;

If I have to be at work on Sunday, I’m going to be comfy and casual. Fox overall and striped henley from Duluth, The same blue boots I wore on Monday.

Bonus Monday:

I took so long to write this post that I am back to Monday, so I thought I’d throw in this outfit too. Wide legged pants from Uniqlo. I feel like they are a little frumpy on me, but they are comfy and cool in the summer. (They’re actually summer weight pants). The shirt I’ve had for maybe 15 years, I think I got it at Nordstrom Rack or some such. I never want to wear it because it is a little short, but the new trend for high waisted pants has brought this shirt out of hiding. The orange sweater I love for the pop of colour. I think it’s another Nordstrom Rack purchase too. Or maybe Marshalls? I remember when I first saw it in the store, I put it back, thinking, “Oh, this is too orange.” But then I went back for it because I loved the colour so much.

So that’s my sartorial week one October week in 2025! I feel like I wear the same clothes over and over, but looking at this, I do see that I’ve made a few new purchases this year.

Grateful For:

-singers who close doors. So there are doors in our show. Three of them at one point. Something that is becoming really clear to me is that one thing seasoned singers do that younger/newer singers don’t, is they close doors behind them when they make an entrance. You cue them onstage, they open the door, walk through the door, and then close the door. A lot of younger singers don’t close doors behind them, just leave it gaping open because they are focused on the music they are about to sing. I think it’s just something that happens as singers mature and being onstage becomes more natural – they do things that are natural in every day life. When you or I walk through a door, typically we close it behind us. Another thing in this world is picking up things that fall onstage. In real life, if I drop a pencil, I will pick it up while going on with my life. Some singers don’t do that. Things will accidentally fall onstage and they just leave it there. And the audience is stuck wondering if someone is going trip over the thing. And afterwards, they will say, “I didn’t know if I should have picked i up.” Seasoned singers will just casually pick the thing up and move on with life. Anyhow, all that to say I really appreciate the singers who have been onstage enough years to close doors and pick up fallen objects without being told.

-Past me for freezing soup for an easy dinner for everyone when I’m not home and the kids and Husband have a million things to do. (I think I’ve been grateful for this a lot in the past, but Past Me is really clutch in this area.)

-five minute curtain holds. Here’s a secret at the opera: we always start the show 5 minutes after posted curtain time. So if the show says it starts at 7:30pm, we always start at 7:35pm. This was a very good thing because on the Friday before, we took the family to the opera. But the 8 year old had soccer practice until 6pm and the show was at 7:30pm. I had to work until 5:30 or so. The whole evening was precisely timed to get us where we needed to be -the 13 year old and I was supposed to meet the Husband at a Metro stop after I got off work – He would pick up dinner after soccer and pick us up at a nearby stop so that we could drive down in one car. But then as the 13 year old and I were walking to the metro, the Husband called and asked, “Can [the eight year old] wear his cleats to the opera?” OMG. The kid had forgotten to bring shoes. So the Husband picked up dinner, came home, picked us up, picked up shoes for the 8 year old and we got down to the theatre at 7:15pm, and ate our sandwiches in the lobby of the theatre in our fancy clothes. It was real classy. But that’s kind of how it goes when you squeeze in a trip to the opera after soccer practice. This is one of those times where we wonder, “Are we doing too much? or do we just suck at logistics?”
Which is all to say, thank goodness the show really started at 7:35pm and we had time to wolf down our sandwiches.

Looking forward to:

-Planners! My planners for 2026 arrived. I did order them off Amazon, which I feel a little guilty about. I usually order my planners from Jet Pens, but they were out of stock, so I waited a week to see if they would re-stock and then ordered from an Amazon retailer. But then… a week after I ordered them, Jet Pens had the planners back in stock. Bummer. Although I know if I had ordered them from Jet Pens I would have thrown another $100 worth of pens and stationary supplies in my cart too, so perhaps this is the more economical option. Anyhow – I love the delicious anticipation of empty planner just waiting to be filled.

-Getting our family photos back. We did end up going to the nearby downtown area and having our pictures taken against murals and plazas, and we even went into the Metro and had some pictures taken there too. I’m kind of excited to see how they turned out.

-light in the morning now that we’ve turned our clocks back.

-Tech week! It’s tech week! Yay moving into the theatre. I’m excited, but also already tired. It kind of sucks to have tech week the week after daylight savings ends. Last night we got done rehearsal at 10:30 and I couldn’t figure out why I was so tired, then I remembered that my body thought it was 11:30pm.

What We Ate – this is a really vague list because I wasn’t home most evenings for dinner. Shout out to the Husband. Also – this is kind of the typical weekly dinner rotation for those “How are we going to make dinner when we are down one parent at home” weeks. Which is all to say, sometimes we have complicated dinners loaded with lots of vegetables, and sometimes we feed the kids food that is tasty and low effort and it’s all fine.

Monday: Thai meatball soup, from the freezer.

Tuesday: Taco Tuesday. I think they had beef tacos.

Wednesday: Mac and cheese and hot dots. The 13 year old made dinner.

Thursday: Breakfast sandwiches.

Friday: We got takeout sandwiches from a diner before the opera.

Saturday: Pizza and movie night – I think the family watched Spiderman 2, the second Toby Maguire version of Spiderman.

Okay, that’s the report from the week. I’ll give the Hallowe’en report next time – it was a good time. Happy November! I’m not participating in NaBloPoMo this year – October is just not when I have the bandwidth (see above about empty journal pages.) But I’m excited to read what other people are up to when I can.