2024 Media Favorites

I try to track the media I consume – I like being able to look back on what went into my brain, and remember if I enjoyed it or not. I don’t have a very cohesive method of tracking, just random scribbles in my journal. I do make longer entries for live performances, though. Here are some things that I consumed that really stood out in 2024. I don’t know if these are my absolute favorites – I find I didn’t take really good notes last year, but these were things that stayed with me (I know these lists are usually posted in January or December even, but.. here you go…)

BOOKS
I read 59 books this year, mostly fiction. I think I’ve re-discovered that I like reading paper copies of books over ebooks. Certainly over reading books on my phone. I get distracted too easily when I read books on my phone.

I DNF books a lot. Not because I don’t like them, but because something more interesting comes along and other things fall to the wayside. I tend to “hate-read” books that I don’t like because I really want to see what happens. I should maybe let that go.

Favorite Reads 2024 :
Ministry of Time by Kalaine Bradley – Time travel isn’t usually my thing. But apparently if you mix time travel with a very attractive Victorian explorer, workplace politics, and political thriller and wrap that in a story that asks questions about what really is “progress”, I guess that ends up being my jam.

Landslide by Susan Conley – I loved this book set in Maine, about a mother of two teenage boys in trying to cope when her husband is injured in a fishing accident off the coast of Nova Scotia. It’s the kind of book that quietly pierces to the core of the beauty and heartbreak of every day life.

Green Island by Shawna Yang Ryan – This book – about Taiwan under martial law, about being an immigrant in America, about how a family deals with trauma and hardship – this book felt very deeply personal to me. These were the times that my parents lived in.

The Adventures of Amina el-Sarifi – Middle aged female pirate gathering a team together to carry out one last heist while battling magical creatures. There is a lot of that description that isn’t my usual jam, but 40 year old bad ass heroines certainly are.

Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions to Adulthood by Lisa Damour – Forget that cringey title, this books was super insightful for me in thinking about how to relate to my tween.

Audiobooks:
The Monsters We Defy by Lesley Penelope read by Shyana Small – I loved this audiobook so much that I borrowed the e-book from the library to read it again. I’m not one into fantasy, but the historical aspects set in 1920s DC provided a good gateway for me to sink into this story.

Ten Things That Never Happened by Alexis Hal, read by Will Watt – I really enjoy Alexis Hall’s books for their mix of humor and quirky yet human characters. Will Watt’s narration of this book upped that all for me. This cozy rom com of a book was like my favorite Richard Curtis movie in audiobook form.

PODCASTS:
I’d say next to books podcasts are the media I consume most. I tend to like podcasts that are long conversations about the human condition, or deep dives into something super niche. I do also listen to a lot of parenting podcasts.

House Calls with Vivek Murthy – I am so sad that Murthy, who was Surgeon General under Obama and Biden, will no longer be producing this podcast, what with him losing his job and all. When I think of podcasts that dissect the essence of what makes us human and how we connect to each other, this podcast is right there. I loved his interview with astronaut Kayla Barron – it’s probably my single most favorite podcast episode this year. In addition to the fascinating details on how one becomes and astronaut, Barron has so many wise words to say about life on earth. I had previously mentioned that she frames the ordinary with the extraordinary. (Fixing the treadmil… in space!) She also said something that has stuck with me about building diverse teams, and that is it’s not about diversity for the sake of diversity, it’s about bringing diversity of thought to a project. That’s so important to remember in the current anti-DEI times. Murthy’s interview with poet Ada Limon is also fantastic – it gave me a lot to think about how I spend my days. You’re going to have to find this podcast on your player because it is no longer available on the Health and Human Services website. wump wump.

Sold a Story: This series actually came out in 2022, though I found it still really relevant. It’s an investigative journalism series that looks at how children are being taught to read in America, specifically how a method that had no scientific backing was being used throughout schools.

Nice White Parents: A 5 episode podcast from 2020 that looks at how parents can shape public schools, and not necessarily for the benefit of everyone.

This is So Awkward – Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett are the experts I turn to when I feel like I’m failing at parenting a tween (now teenager). They provide the perfect blend of science and compassion for navigating this stage of parenting.

28-ish Days Later – podcast from the BBC that looks at the menstural cycle from both a biological and historical perspective. I especially appreciated the sentiment that our periods don’t make women weaker – after all what is stronger than being able to deal with having a different body every single day as we cycle though physical and emotional states?

MOVIES: I think I went to see two, maybe three, movies in the theatre last year. We watch movies at home, but mostly for family movie night. I find I don’t have a lot of bandwidth for watching movies on my own. As a result, most of our movie watching is not at all current.

Babes – My friend and I went to a midweek matinee of this movie last spring, when things were kind of slow at work. We laughed so so so hard at this movie. It stars Ilana Glazer and Michelle Buteau in a story about two best friends whose relationship is tested when the perpetually single one accidentally becomes pregnant. There are pregnancy jokes, pumping jokes, parenting jokes, BFF jokes… All of which fell in the “funny because it’s true” category. Was the movie stunningly original? Probably not, but that doesn’t make it any less wonderful. Why haven’t more people seen this movie????

Family Movie Night: Pizza and movie night is a staple at our place. Usually on a Friday night or a Saturday night. Some of our (MY) favorites this year that we watched with the kids (who were 12, 7, and 4):
-Night at the Museum – action and excitement
-Next Goal Wins – heartwarming soccer movie. Also Michael Fassbender is dreamy.
-Greatest Showman – we watch this at least twice a year, singing along loudly
-Barbie – subversive bubble gum fun, that had me in tears at the end.
-Mitchells vs. the Machines – Animated movies aren’t my default pick for movie night – I’m trying to watch more live action things. But this movie was delightful and heart-warming.

TELEVISION
Family TV Night: This year we really leaned into family TV night rather than family movie night. What with everyone’s activities, a 30 or 60 minute episode of something was just the right length to fit in between basketball practice and bedtime. Favorite shows we watched:
-Gallivant. WHY WHY WHY was there only two seasons of this family friendly, funny, entertaining show?
-Glee. Some of the subject matter was awkward to explain, but the musical numbers had us all bobbing along.
-Bad Batch, The Acolyte, and really anything in the Star Wars Universe. When we don’t know what to watch, Star Wars
-Star Trek: The Next Generation. When we were vacationing on an Island in Maine, we watched ST:TNG non stop for three days. It didn’t feel as dated as I thought it would.
-The Summer Olympics. So exciting to watch.
-Bluey. I don’t know why it took us this long to get into Bluey. The episodes are short and feel so true to life, perfect way to unwind before bedtime. (Like the one where the kids drop their ice cream cone and declare to dad, “It’s not fair!” and Dad says, “That’s about as fair as it gets, actually.” Made me howl with laughter.)
-Brooklyn 99 and Modern Family. When we just want to spend 22 minutes laughing.

Grown Up Show for Me: I don’t watch a whole lot of TV – mostly because I often would rather read a book at night to wind down. But I do like watching TV as I clean the kitchen, and occasionally I’ll watch something with the Husband. I for sure don’t watch all the shows that are hip or trendy or buzzy. To be honest, I feel like a lot of the stuff that everyone is watching is too violent or gritty or serious or sad for me. Like I’ll scroll through Hulu and every show seems to feature people glaring and sullen. When I do watch something, it’s usually a half hour comedy. We don’t have Netflix, but we do have Hulu, Disney, Max, Peacock, and Prime. Sometimes I feel like I’m missing out by not having Netflix, but I figure there will always be something to watch on the services that we do have, so my sense of FOMO is kind of unnecessary. Some of my favorite shows I watched in 2024:


-Starstruck (Max)- So funny and sweet and relatable, this show is about Jess who has a one night stand with a huge movie star and the fall out from that. I don’t usually like protagonists who are screw ups, but there is something so fresh and honest about Jess that I ended up loving her. I’m half way through the last season and I can’t bring myself to finish watching it because I don’t want it to end.

-Sort Of (Max)- Gender fluid Sabi navigates the dynamics within their Pakistani family and their job as a nanny. This is a show about learning to accept yourself and those around you.

-Acapulco (Apple) – Cute show, told in flashbacks, about young Maximo who starts out as a pool boy at a luxury Mexican resort and rises through the ranks. I like this show for it’s feel-good, sunny humour and the 80s playlists.

-English Teacher (FX/Hulu) – Really funny and sharp comedy about a gay teacher in Austin trying to fight the system and sometimes giving up.

LIVE PERFORMANCES
High School/Middle School Musicals. I didn’t do theatre in middle school or high school. (Shocking, I know, considering it’s now what I do for my job.), so I didn’t really grow up going to school plays. Turns out the high schools in our area do really great shows. This year we saw Beauty and the Beast and A Year with Frog and Toad at the high school as well as middle school productions of Annie and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. They were all delightful. There is something special about going to see a show where you know the kids onstage and where you’ll run into people you know in the audience, a show where things probably won’t be perfect, but everyone is having a once in a life time experience. The high school is doing Secret Garden this spring – I CAN’T WAIT!!!

Silent Night – is this cheating if it’s a show I worked on myself?. I love this opera so much. The music, the story, the bagpipes. I feel so lucky that I got to work on it again this year, and that I got to hear this exquisite score played over the course of four performances.

The Play That Goes Wrong I think sometimes we go to the theatre to be moved to tears. I know certainly that’s true for opera – we want to see the soprano die and everyone to be devastated. But this play, about an amateur production of a murder mystery where everything goes wrong, made me laugh and laugh and laugh so hard. From identifying with the Stage Manager who loses track of the place and forgets to run a sound cue, to the actors forgetting their lines, to the doorknobs that keep falling off the set. This was an exquisitely timed masterpiece of comedy. Some of the technical aspects were amazing.

ART and MUSEUMS
Mary Cassatt at the Philadelphia Museum of Art – I’ve always been a fan of Cassatt’s art, and this exhibit was a wonderful exploration of her process.

National Museum of Taiwan History in Tainan – My cousin recommended this museum to us, and I’m really glad we made time to go while we were in Taiwan. It was a really well laid out and comprehensive look at Taiwan from it’s early days as a trading port through all the various states of occupation, to present day history.

Museum of Islamic Art in Kuala Lumpur – Stunning art and fascinating history. It was eye opening to see the intersection of Muslim and Asian cultures.

Lobster Museum in Swann’s Island, Maine – Okay so this was basically some guy’s attic collection of lobster men memorabilia that the town decided to put into a building, but I loved it.

Dorothea Lange: Seeing People at the National Gallery of Art – The title says it all – haunting portraits taken by Lange throughout the years. Some well known and iconic, and some that were new to me. The pictures taken in Japanese internment camps were especially poignant.

Pattens and Paradox: The Quilts of Amish Women at the American Art Museum – I learned so much about the art of quilts from this exhibit, which also make me think about the women who made quilts and the intersection between art and functionality and folk art and high art.

MUSIC – Looking at this list, I’m realizing one thing that’s missing is music. I don’t listen to a lot of music in a curated way. That is to say I don’t tend to listen to specific artists or albums. If I want to listen to something I’ll often just listen to the radio and see what serendiptiy brings, or I’ll type some inspirational words, like “Happy dinner” or “Bluegrass excercise” into Spotify or Apple Music and see what play lists come up. I think this is partly because I am surrounded by music at work, so music isn’t the first thing I turn to in my liesure time. Even still I do get a lot of enjoyment from music. This year, I re-discovered the joy of big romantic sweeping musicals (Scarlet Pimpernel, Titanic, etc.), and of just listening to the classical music station when I needed to decompress. As a family we listen to a lot of Disney songs and musicals (SIX is a favorite), and whatever the husband has playing on Pandora (his mix is pretty eclectic, but always has a strong beat and a good tune). Do I feel like I need to change my music habits? Not really. I do feel like I’m out of the pop culture loop, but hey I can’t keep up with everything.

That’s it for my 2024 Media favorites. What about you? Any favorite books/podcasts/movies/tv shows/music/art/ etc. that you discovered in 2024? What music do you recommend for me?
Any goals and aspirations for your media consumption in 2025?

Reflections for my kids at the end of the 2023-2024 School Year

Well we made it through another school year! It always feels like a triumph to make it to the last day of school. Back in September, the school year was just stretched out before us, full of questions and possibilities. Well now we know. There were first days and snow days and holidays and testing days. And we got through them all. If you’ll pardon me being a sentimental mother, here’s some thoughts for my kids that I want to hold on to about this past year…

Dear L (12 year old)-
You get the longest letter because I feel like you had the biggest shift this year, going to to middle school. It’s been amazing watching you navigate your first year there. I was so nervous and worried at the beginning of the school year- how were you going to get to school? Would you be able to find your classes? Do you have friends? Will the other kids be nice to you? So much would be new. And even though I didn’t specifically go to middle school – my school was K-8 – I know how tough those years can be, trying to figure out who you are, what you want to do, how you want to do it, what brings you joy… And all the while the kids around you having the same struggles, and sometimes not very kind about it. I didn’t have to worry about you. I should have known that you had the independence, kindness, and confidence that a kid needs to thrive middle school. How many times did we have this exchange:

You: There was another fight in the hallways today.
Me: Oh no. Are you okay? What did you do?
You: I just kept walking to class.

I think that ability to stay far away from the drama will serve you well in life.

Middle school has been kind of a black hole for me – you go off in the morning, come home at night. I don’t really know what goes on in between, and since you don’t have (or do) homework, I just have to trust that you are learning – learning things and learning how to learn things and do the work. I don’t know if my memories will be the same as yours, but this is what I will remember about your 6th grade year: Your first sleepaway experience with the school Outdoor Education program (which you loved – are you sure you aren’t interested in sleepaway camp???). How you really got into theatre. Seeing you up on stage singing and dancing was so much fun. You realizing that you were actually pretty good at math and that it was those horrid kids in the Chinese immersion program who were the shitty ones. You walking home from school singing show tunes at the top of your lungs. How you took it upon yourself to write all your teachers Thank You notes at the end of the year. (Though we should still work on how to spell circumference). You coming home brimming with news and gossip. You figuring out how to talk to your teachers on your own. Fighting about screentime and whether or not you could get a cellphone. I think this last one will be with us for at least another year. It’s an ongoing conversation… Let’s see what happens next year!

Dear A (7 year old)-
It’s been a tough year in first grade, hasn’t it? I’m so sorry for all the stupid challenges that you faced this year at school. The homework was excessive – how I wanted to tell you to just burn it all!
But… you’ve learned to read – in two languages! You can do math! You make art and music. I love having little conversations with you in French – we won’t be talking about economics any time soon, but being able to talk to you in French about your day or things that you need is delightful. I’m so amazed at how much of the language your brain has picked up in just two years. And you’ve made some good friends, I think. Apparently playing soccer at recess is the highlight of many of your days. And outside of school, this year you’ve learned to sew and play the piano and ride your bike. I think those are all amazing accomplishments.

Dear W (4 year old)-
I guess technically you don’t have a “school year” since you are in day care all year round, but you did move to a new classroom last August. We all went into this school year hoping you could go to kindergarten this fall, but clearly the universe (or the school district) had other plans. Oh well, as one of your teachers said, you’ll be the smartest kid in kindergarten when you get there. “Why can’t she go to Kindergarten?!?!?” has now become a catchphrase in our family any time you do something funny or smart or responsible. (Which is at least four or five times a day.) I hope you’ve had a great year in your pre-K classroom. From what I see, you’ve done so much! You learned to write letters and numbers, you made good friends, you played in the sandbox a lot. A lot a lot. There were beaches of sand dumped out of your shoes when you came home some days. Your big sister got to come to your class to be the Mystery Reader. I guess if you don’t get to go to kindergarten you’ll get to have all that fun all over again. Whatever next year brings, I’m sure you’ll meet it with your usual enthusiasm and joy.

Well, now it’s time for summer. I hope we find time to enjoy summer and the time off from school. Sooner than we know, it will be the end of August again, and time for another school year.

We make videos of the kids on the last day of school, asking them questions about the past year. I try to ask the same questions every year, but I don’t always remember. Here are the answers from this year:

12 year old, just finished 6th grade:
Most Challenging thing: Adjusting to have so many different teacher and a locker with a code. And classes being louder with people I didn’t know or associate with at all.
Best Thing: One, we didn’t really have homework. Two, the teachers were nicer than I expected.
Worst Thing: The fights. And the drama. And the kids being WAY too loud and some of the teachers were just mean. Well, they weren’t mean they were just taught at certain way when they were kids and they’d always been taught that way so they didn’t know how to adjust the teachings to the needs of the kids.
What are you most proud of this year? I got into both the play and the musical and I had lines in both.
What are your hopes and aspirations for 7th grade: That the new theatre teacher likes me.
What advice would you give someone going to 6th grade? Don’t get on the teacher’s bad side.

The 7 year old, just finished 1st grade:
Most Challenging Thing: The grades. Especially when you have the best teacher in 1st teacher.
Best Thing: There are friends that you remember from kindergarten.
Worst Thing: Math is hard.
What are you post proud of this year? I got to second grade, because that was unlikely.
Looking forward to the most in 2nd Grade: I hope I get good notes. (I think he means grades here – notes= French for grades.)
What advice would you give someone going into 1st grade? Don’t speak English if you are going to French.

The 4 year old, in Pre-K:
Most Challenging Thing: Circle Time
Best Thing: Playing.
Worst Thing: Getting in fights. (Me: WHAT?!?!) There are fights in line.
What are you most proud of this year? Writing my name.
Looking forward To: Getting into kindergarten.
What advice do you have for someone coming into your classroom? Don’t be mean.